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What no one tells you about married life: The true (and funny) experience of being with the only one


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Let me set the record straight: You have found your person.

You had the wedding of your dreams, the honeymoon was wonderful, and now you are settling into married life.

But wait... why hasn't anyone told you that it's not all about romantic dinners, hand-holding, and perfect Sunday breakfasts?

Because - surprise! - marriage is just as messy, unpredictable, and amazing as a single life, only now you have a steady mate. And the hero? He's coming up with a whole new set of scenarios that no one told you about.

Here you'll learn what no one told you about married life - especially if you're a woman who's used to living alone.

 

From "I" to "WE":The art of joint planning

 

When you're single, scheduling is easy: brunch at 11, pilates at 2, Netflix all night. But in marriage, everything is a team sport. Want to redecorate the living room? Prepare for intense discussions about whether "sunny yellow" is too much for the wall color. That weekend trip you booked on a whim? Now you need to balance that with your husband's work calendar, dog-sitting, and passionate debates about the beach or the mountains.

 

Real-life example: My friend Lisa has been dreaming of a boho living room since before Pinterest existed. Her husband Jim, however, had a deep emotional attachment to his bachelor recliner, which he affectionately named "Old Faithful." Let's just say their first lesson in marital compromise came when they finally agreed to partially modify the recliner with a bedspread... baby steps, right?

 

Tip: Approach joint planning like a slow dance: let yourself lead, then take turns. Your partner won't always like your decisions (goodbye, yellow walls), but finding a middle ground can be surprisingly satisfying. Plus, you'll get to practice your negotiating skills - a win for future disagreements.

 

 

Support in your professional life: Your built-in cheerleader

 

One of the best parts of marriage is the built-in support system. Imagine a personal cheerleader who not only knows your goals but also believes you can conquer the world in your pajamas. A strong partner is like a Wi-Fi signal for your self-esteem: when he or she is strong, you feel like you can do anything.

 

While single life gives you the freedom to focus only on your own ambitions, married life brings an unexpected advantage: someone who actively cares about your success - and will bring you ice cream when the going gets tough.

 

Case in point: My colleague Lucie was feeling overwhelmed preparing for a big presentation. Her husband stayed up until 2 a.m. with her, rehearsing her through her presentations and even helping her add a little humor to calm her nerves. Did she give an "A" presentation? Absolutely. And let's not forget that he was the real best man backstage.

 

Tip: Don't just lean on each other when the going gets tough - celebrate each other's victories, no matter how small. Even the phrase "You survived Monday!" deserves a high-five (or better yet, a pizza).

 

 

Romantic moments: It's not what you think...

 

Before the wedding, you may be imagining endless candlelit dinners and spontaneous elopements. In reality? Romantic moments are more like finding notes in the fridge that say, "Don't forget to buy more milk!" But here's the thing: marital romance is tricky. It shows up in unexpected ways - a hug after a long day, sharing a private joke during a family dinner, or even when your partner makes sure the coffee is ready before you wake up. It's not so much about the big gestures as it is about those little everyday moments of connection.

 

Real-life example: My friend Julie once told me that her husband left a note in her lunchbox with just one word: "Avocado." This is very important to her. At first, she was confused (was it a shopping reminder?), but then she remembered their conversation on their first date about their shared love of guacamole. See? Romance can look like avocado notes!

 

Tip: Change the definition of romance. It's not always about heart-shaped balloons and fancy dinners. Sometimes it's preparing your partner's favorite snack or watching a movie you don't like just because he likes it.

 

 

Different views: From mild to major contradictions

 

One of the biggest surprises? How often do you and your partner disagree? And I'm not talking about who left the toothpaste cap off. No, it's going to be about bigger battles, like who gets control of the thermostat or what constitutes a "clean" kitchen. When you're single, it's easy to forget that a relationship requires a constant balancing of two (often very different) minds.

 

Real-life example: My friend Romana and her husband almost had a "marital incident" over his insistence that peanut butter should always be kept in the refrigerator. (I know, right?) They laugh about it today, but back then it was a serious matter.

 

Tip: Always be selective about what you argue over. Some disagreements are worth a thorough discussion (financial decisions), while others (like the peanut butter debacle) you can leave alone. Learn to accept your partner's idiosyncrasies and remember that he's equally confused by your insistence on arranging your closet by color.

 

 

Strategies for strengthening the bond: Keep it fun!

 

Marriage is work, yes, but it doesn't have to feel like going to work every day. No one tells you that couples who laugh together stay together. Don't get swept away by the seriousness of life. Instead, keep it fun - whether by planning date nights, surprising each other with small gifts, or a silly tradition that's all yours.

 

Real-life example: My friends Mark and Veronica have a tradition of hosting a "theme night" every Friday. One week it's Italian, the next Hawaiian. They dress up, cook, and play music based on the theme - it's quirky and funny, but it keeps their bond strong.

 

Tip: Find time to have fun, even when life seems too busy. Play games, cook together, or maybe have a spontaneous dance in the living room. These moments will remind you why you chose this person to share your life with.

 

The real magic of married life

 

Married life is not a glitzy fairy tale, but that's what makes it beautiful. The messiness, the inside jokes, the peanut butter debates - it all adds up to a shared experience that is all yours. You're building a life together, and while it won't always be easy, the love, support, and companionship you get from your partner will make every challenge worth it. Plus, you'll always have someone to blame when the thermostat is set too high.

 

And let's face it, who else are you going to watch a reality show in the same pajamas?

Bonus tip: Always remember to laugh - at each other, at life, and especially at the little things that don't go as planned. Because those are the ones you'll end up loving the most.

 

So for all the single ladies who dream of married life, know this: it's not perfect, but it's perfectly yours. And that's the best part...

 


How do you see marriage and what does it mean to you? Do you have a specific tip on how to improve it and lead it to fulfillment?
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